Modern e-love falls short of emotion

Mindy Lethcoe
News Editor

In our fast-paced corporate world, who has time to do things the old-fashioned way? I mean, why waste precious time and energy doing things personally when we can just do them online, over a nice fax or e-mail? The proverbial “personal touch” is overrated, and thoughtfulness is a sign of weakness, right? Now is the age and time of speed dating and dot-com love. We have Britney Spears singing to her lost love to “e-mail her heart” mingling with tones of AOL instant messaging ringing in our ears. Lovers confess their thoughts and feelings through impersonal e-love-tronic means instead of face-to-face contact or personally written love notes like in the “olden days.” In fact, I recently received an e-mail from a Web site titled “Someonelikesyou.com.” This e-letter told me there was some person on the World Wide Web who had a crush on me, but they wouldn’t reveal their identity unless I visited their site to find out. Being curious and somewhat flattered at this secret admiration, I ventured to the site in hopes of some sort of identifying answer to satiate my piqued interest. All clicking was in vain, for the Web site would never tell me whose “crush list” my name graced unless I paid a “nominal fee,” no matter how many e-mail addresses I sacrificed to name on my crush list in order to receive small, inconclusive hints as to who it could be. Bitter and annoyed, I exited the Web site. This “confession” of feeling was no more than a quick punch of some keys followed by an unimpressive click of a mouse. No thought or effort was invested in this less-than-adequate show of affection. It was almost like a regression back to the elementary school playground when Tommy sent Johnny to reveal his true feelings, except this time Johnny wanted to collect his service charge on your end. But this modern mode of manufactured love doesn’t end online. In fact, we see the idea and process of falling in love degenerating season by season with hit “reality” TV shows like “The Bachelor,” “Joe Millionaire” and the all-awaited “Married By America.” In fact, love is non-existent in “Married By America.” That is the whole premise of the show. Love nowadays fades and fails, so why not just go potluck? Marriage isn’t that big of a deal, and besides, these kinds of mistakes are erasable, right? I will admit, I did get sucked in with the masses with both shows, and I probably will catch a few episodes of the up-and-coming circus act, but I refuse to admit those shows to be “reality.” Love can’t be forced, nor can it be discovered in a rose-colored vacuum. Reality isn’t exotic dates, French chateaus and free-flowing champagne, and love isn’t measured by collections of red roses or beautiful gems. It’s a serious commitment brimming with opportunity and adventure, hardship and heartache. That’s reality. And success shows when you can really say for better or for worse. Love these days seems too commercial, too fantastical, too manufactured. I think Aaron and Helene and Joe (Evan) and Zora found that out the hard, nationally-publicized way. And these soon-to-be FOX fairy tale newlyweds are in for a dismal ending as well. Maybe I’m just old-fashioned, or maybe I’ve read too many Jane Austin novels where the hero and heroin work their way into love, rather than plunging headfirst. Either way, there is something missing here. Whatever happened to the process and grandeur of courtship and dating? Why are we so caught up in getting to the “next stage” that we don’t take time to really get to know each other below the surface? Sometimes I think it would do people a lot of good to take a step back and think. What can I do to really show this person how I feel? It’s the personal touch and thoughtfulness that convey the most feeling and reaps the best rewards. So forget the e-mails, the text messaging and the speed dating, and step out of your face-paced life for a few minutes. Take the time to cultivate a lifetime of special moments you can treasure happily ever after. After all, that’s how all the good ones end.

Lethcoe, a senior mass communication major, hails from Arlington, Texas.

 

Big nose too often result of small mind

Jessica Weiss
Staff Reporter

What do Cindy Crawford, Lauren Hutton and Barbara Streisand have in common? They had the courage to accept themselves--perceived physical flaws and all. Think about it. Each of these women have attributes many would try to minimize or otherwise alter by way of plastic surgery. Crawford with her trademark mole. Hutton and her gap-toothed smile. Streisand with her prominent nose. Instead of viewing their attributes as imperfections, they turned their flaws into something that set them apart from the crowd. A unique signature, if you will. That, my friends, is self-acceptance. It’s easy to fall into the trap of measuring yourself against some outside standard—be it fashion magazines, television or peers. Sometimes it almost seems as if everyone is in a contest, obsessed with idealism and unattainable perfection. Who doesn’t have a physical characteristic they wouldn’t mind altering? I’m willing to bet the farm that we could all come up with a few things we’d like to “get done”—unless, of course, you’re the that guy who sings the “I’m too sexy” song! (just kidding!) With the proliferation of plastic surgery in today’s society, it doesn’t seem insane to be so vain. It seems like almost every celebrity has had a nip here or a tuck there. In fact, some may actually owe their celebrity status to the operation they’ve had. Take Pamela Anderson, for example. Tell me you didn’t envision a big chest as soon as you read her name. It’s pretty safe to say she isn’t known for her acting ability. Who wants to be known for a body part? Not me. Then there are the people who take the whole concept way too far. Today, the name Michael Jackson has virtually become a synonym for cosmetic surgery. He now looks as though he’s from a different planet, but that’s another topic in and of itself. My point is I think it is ridiculous how synthetic some people would like to be. Many people undergo the knife each year, each shelling out thousands of dollars just to make an unnecessary change in their appearance. Maybe you have even fantasized about how you would look if you had your (fill in the blank) done. But don’t you think it would be a lot healthier to appreciate the one-of-a-kind individual that you are? To actually like—not just tolerate—your face, your hair and your figure? Learning to let go of what others think and instead concentrating on pleasing yourself certainly takes some courage. However, once you begin to embrace your uniqueness and accept yourself the way you already are, your true beauty will begin to shine through.

Weiss, a junior mass communication major, hails from LaMorre, Calif.

 

Better than the movie

There’s always that one kid in class who seems to know it all, until the professor discovers that not only has he/she not read the book, but he/she is basing all knowledge of the subject at hand on a movie. The most obvious way this person is unmasked is when they get the facts wrong. They try to convince their American history professor that Forrest Gump really was the inspiration for the “have a nice day” smiley face. Or, perhaps, they attempt discussing “Gone with the Wind,” but somehow never got to the part where Scarlet had two other children besides Bonnie. Although not severely academically detrimental, students who give up books for their cinematic counterpart lose the adventure of conjuring up the images in their heads. What did students do before televisions and movies? Without the challenge of creating their own images, students today are banished to a world of unoriginal images. With no active part of the imagination, story lines become repetitive and boring. In a movie everything is prepared and no imagination or thought has to go into it. Society becomes more and more passive as less and less involvement is required from entertainment. Perhaps the biggest reason stated by students why movies are better than books is because it is easier to watch a movie than read a book. This is reflective of a society where almost anything is simplified and modified for “convenience sake.” Remote controls and microwaves make entertainment and food available at a moments notice and at a minimal effort. However, the “real” world is not like that. When students get their first job, the primary purpose will not be to make their lives easier. Taking the easy way out is not the best preparation for making it in the job market. To read and learn out of a book it take effort. Even if students get the correct answers on tests because they watched the movie, they still lose something by not reading the book. In “What Reading Does for the Mind,” a study found that prime-time television used fewer “rare words” than even children’s books. In an article by Alex Leibman of Yale University, he stated a study that people who read more know more about every day questions. Of people surveyed 70 percent believed that there were more Jews in the world than Muslims. In this same study reading volume increased the test scores and television exposure was associated with lower scores. Students shouldn’t allow themselves to be cheated by neglecting to read the books. By all means go watch the movie for a night of passive entertainment, but they shouldn’t skip out on truly educating themselves with the books.

Editorial written by Paige Dickerson, a sophomore English major.

 


I’d like to address the parking on campus, but more specifically, the way in which we deal with finding a parking space. Monday, it was 17 degrees when I was looking for a space on the south side of Bolin Hall. I have to assume the cold temperatures were partly to blame for the road rage a young man displayed. There were several vehicles idling in the row waiting for students to leave so they could get their spot. Apparently this person believed he had a right to the first space that opened up, whether he had to race in reverse or whether he had to turn into the space right or left. This person practically rammed his truck into the car in back of him, while he was racing in reverse (because the car in back of him was going to turn left into the spot also). He threw the gears into drive and came within an inch of hitting me trying to get the spot before I did. The icing on the cake came when I got out of my car—he was waiting for me so he could curse at me. I found it hard to believe that anyone seeking a higher education would be so crass and out-of-control. We need to choose our battles in this life, and fighting over a parking spot sure as hell isn’t one worth our time. We need to follow right-of-ways in the parking lots as well as showing a little bit of courtesy. As for the comments he made about my age, the last time I checked it wasn’t a crime to be 48. I guess he’s going to be young and disrespectful forever.

Candy Clark

 

Joe Silva | The Wichitan

 

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